In an effort to help us navigate our inner truth, Marshall Rosenberg named certain key differentiations to tell if we are in a jackal consciousness or a giraffe consciousness. Find a list of those he named here.
25 Key Differentiations found in the CNVC certification package CPP
1. “Being Giraffe” vs. “doing Giraffe”
2. Giraffe honesty vs. jackal honesty
3. Empathy vs. sympathy and other forms of response (fixing, reassuring, storytelling, etc.)
4. Protective vs. punitive use of force
5. Power with vs. power over
6. Appreciation vs. approval, compliments or praise
7. Choice vs. submission or rebellion
8. Observation vs. observation mixed with evaluation
9. Feeling vs. feeling mixed with thoughts
10. Need vs. request
11. Request vs. demand
12. Stimulus of feelings vs. cause of feelings
13. Value judgment vs. moralistic judgment
14. Natural vs. habitual
15. Interdependence vs. dependence or independence
16. Life-connected vs. life-alienated
17. Shift vs. compromise
18. Persisting vs. demanding
19. Obedience vs. self-discipline
20. Respect for authority vs. fear of authority
21. Vulnerability vs. weakness
22. Love as an action vs. love as a need and a feeling
23. Self-empathy vs. acting out, repressing, or wallowing in feelings
24. Idiomatic vs. classical (formal) Giraffe
25. Empathic sensing vs. intellectual guessing
Observation vs. Evaluation
Feeling vs. Thinking
Need vs. Strategy
Request vs. Demand
Stimulus vs. Cause of Feelings
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Submission/Rebellion vs Freedom
Additional Key Differentiations
Personal responsibility vs. obedience
Drafts:
Guilts vs. Responsibility – Responsibility vs. Guilt
Having Time vs. Taking Time
What is Just vs. What is Possible