Embrace your jackal today,
meet yourself and your ancestors with more care.
What does it mean – embracing a jackal with care?
It means that we can change our perspective, if we wish to do so. We are free to look at all expressions with a sense of animosity or we can drop this perspective and adopt a caring perspective, that sees any rude, violent or unpleasant expression as a request for help or support, that is done in an unskillfull way.
A person wants love and acts in a violent way. That is what I would call “unskillful”. Because such a way to request love with not lead to the wished-for result and only make matters worse. Right?
Choice and Intention
It is important to understand that we have choice in every moment of our life about this moment of “to care or not to care”.
When a person acts in an unpleasant way for us, not matter how small or intense, we can intend to meet this moment with care – care for ourselves and care for the other person.
That intention is the first very important step.
Acceptance for Current Limitations
Then – we can note that this attitude of caring is fine in theory, but quite impossible to do in many moments of our life. To notice that is another important step.
Then – we can be kind to ourselves and accept our limitations in certain situations to not act from a caring perspective. It is okay to not be able to make true something like that, because we did not receive a good education how to do it and the world seems to be full of teachings of non-caring about others.
That is where we can pratice self-compassion. And we can use the method of compassionate communication – looking at our observations, feelings, needs and requests in relation to any given difficult event. That is an act of care – deepening our understanding about our own feelings and needs, what is on our heart.
If we can ask for support in difficult moments, that adds another layer of self-care in practice.
Lastly, having done this practice of self-compassion, we can also turn to the jackal that was offered to us and try to kiss the prince in the ugly frog that appeared on our horizon, darkening the sun and being such a monster.