| Game of Right and Wrong  | Game of Making Life Wonderful  | |
| GOAL | To get what you want, with no awareness or care for the impact on others | To create a quality of connection with another person, such that everyone trusts their needs truly matter |
| HOW TO EVALUATE | Moralistic judgments, labeling, criticizing, analyzing You are wrong, so you deserve … | Value Judgments Does it serve life? |
| MOTIVATIONS & STRATEGIES | Punishment Reward Guilt Shame Duty Obligation | The joy of giving to another, without needing to receive anything back The joy of receiving freely from another |
| LEADS TO | Violence and Alienation | Life-serving families and communities |
