Say what you mean Foreword by Joseph Goldstein Introduction Part 1 Part 1: The First Step – Lead with Presence 1. The Center of Our Lives 2. The Power of Mindfulness 3. Relational Awareness Part 2 Part 2: The Second Step – Come from Curiosity and Care 4. The Blame Game 5. Where are you coming from 6. Don’t Let the Call Drop Part 3 Part 3: The Third Step – Focus on What Matters 7. Getting Down to What Matters 8. Emotional Agility 9. Enhancing Empathy and Inner Resilience 10. How to Raise an Issue Without Starting a Fight 11. If You Want Something, Ask for It Part 4 Part 4: Bringing it all together 12. The Flow of Dialogue 13. Running the Rapids 14. Conclusion – Charting your Course Summary of Principles Useful Communication Phrases